Showing posts with label Sexual violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sexual violence. Show all posts

Thursday, October 19, 2017

Me Too

With the countless sexual improprieties of Harvey Weinstein being make public the "Me Too" movement has blown up with thousands millions of women posting these two words on social media to indicate that they too have been sexually harassed and/or assaulted. Lovely world isn't it?

I'm certainly no expert on human behavior but I have been thinking about why some men behave this way. I have (more than two) words to add to the fray. 

There is no dispute that men are biologically wired for sex. They think about sex a lot and the men who harass women are unable or unwilling to mentally draw that line between appropriate and inappropriate sexual behavior. 

Perhaps men think that women are as sexually wired as they are and want to engage in sexual behavior as badly as they do. 

Men want to exert power over women because it makes them feel better about themselves and because they're wired for sex they naturally default to this method.

I am not sure to what extent our culture plays into sexual harassment/assault but we can't deny that it does. 

In the evenings while I work I've been watching old M*A*S*H reruns. This is a show that, at its time, was ground-breaking in exposing the idiosyncrasies of war. It won multiple awards throughout its eleven year duration. But in almost every episode I see examples of sexual harassment inflicted by the male doctors toward the female nurses. Call it innocuous flirting, or nebulous teasing, in today's world, those nurses could file a harassment lawsuit and win. And what's more disturbing, it's all done in the name of comedy. The laugh track is loud and clear. The behavior of the men toward the women is supposed to be funny. 

Fortunately entertainment has evolved somewhat from the days when it was funny to harass women. So I guess we can be glad about that. Unfortunately, the goings on behind the scenes are not so quick to come to light. But with the "Me Too" movement, perhaps its time has come.  

Your thoughts?

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Fifty Shades of Mixed Messages

I don't have enough space to list all the reasons why I haven't read the Fifty Shades of Grey series and you can probably guess that I won't be seeing the movie either. In fact, I've pretty much ignored the whole Fifty Shades enterprise until recently when I saw a post stating that The Journal of Women's Health examined themes in Fifty Shades and found extensive instances of emotional abuse, sexual violence and most importantly, reactions by the victim (Anastasia) that are typical of abused women.   

Oh lovely. I've been down that road and it's not a pretty one. People who are manipulated in whatever way, get psychologically messed up! 

Like I said, I haven't read the books. But from my research it appears that Fifty Shades of Grey is a simple love story--NOT. It's actually the story about a young man (Christian) who claims to care about Ana (Anastasia) but his actions depict a man more interested in domination than unconditional love. 

I did a bit more digging and found this interesting and informative five minute video. My notes are below it. (Disclaimer: I am in no way affiliated with Covenant Eyes or its practices or beliefs.) 


Four Lies About Sex in Fifty Shades of Grey

1. Violence is sexy. Christian's violence scars Ana. Apparently she tames him in sequel books but the first book concludes with her crying because she knows she's fallen for a man who is deeply disturbed. 

2. Sexual brokenness is sexy. Christian worships Ana. He's wealthy but he's messed up and even admits he is. He was sexually abused at fifteen then began a dominant/submissive relationship with his mom's friend. Is the victim-state-of-mind--perpetuated throughout the book--something to celebrate? 

3. Women should put up with stalkers. Ana gives full consent to Christian but she still suffers emotional damage. The book blurs the line between consent and coercion/control. Ana is a victim of "intimate partner violence." Emotional abuse is evident in every scene. 

4. Consent is a secondary concern when lust is involved. Ana compares Christian to a fictional villain from a book he gives her. 

And because I haven't read the book and can only go by what others have said, here is an excellent summation of abuses in the book. 


LifeSTAR of the Central Valley, is an organization that helps people affected by sexual abuse. On their blog, they list suggestions on how those of us who oppose sexual violence can do our part to stop it, including a Pinterest  page. 

Thanks for reading!